Current Update as of May 04, 2004
Inspired by The Edgar Cayce Institute for Intuitive Studies
Edited by HENRY REED, Ph.D.
is a natural intelligence, a DNA of the soul. We all always have it; itís
a matter of learning to listen to it, especially in relationships.
"An Intuitive Approach to Improving Relationships," the book
stresses learning to trust our own instincts.
to listen to intuition can help us make wise choices in our relationships
and can lead to creative solutions when problems arise.
Intuition is non analytic. It is not logical. You know something without knowing how you know it. Some people describe it as having a "gut feeling" about something.
Intuition is effortless. No research is involved. The truth is obvious.
Intuition is subjective. It deals with the interconnections in events. One thing happens and, as a result, something else happens.
Intuition is holistic. The universe works on our behalf. Events are put into place and then other events naturally follow. The universe sends us what we need when we need it.
With knowledge of these four characteristics of intuition, an individual can learn to pay attention and develop intuition to a greater extent.
WHEN ITíS RIGHT is about letting intuition be your guide in establishing,
maintaining and even letting go of relationships, based on natural intelligence.
chapter presents a different type of relationship and discusses it in
direct. Do what intuition tells you to, even though you donít trust
what you know.
positive flow. Respond to whatís happening in harmonious ways.
your power to keep possibilities open.
Trust your connection. Some ways in which connection manifests itself are synchronicity, coincidence, miracles, and creative inspiration.
of the above principles can be put into practice at the time of meeting
a new person.
word of caution: Be sure to balance needing and wanting. Donít be desperate
about having a relationship.
are feelings that might be experienced at the beginning of a relationship
which are confusing, but there are tools to aid us in making wise choices.
way to explain a warning sign is noting the difference in feeling fear
and feeling anxiety. Fear can be intuitive, but anxiety cannot.
warning sign, once weíve begun a relationship, is procrastination. We
know we need to end the relationship but something keeps holding us back.
However, once youíve recognized a connection with another person, if you have observed no warning signs and have felt the flow and resonance, the advice offered by the book is to go slow, trust your connection and enjoy the relationship for whatever it is.
meeting new people, Dr. Rosanoff suggests that you think of flow in terms
of a traffic light. Green means go. Red means stop. Yellow lights need
more time spent on them.
is fine to navigate a relationship, but donít strategize it, because that
would mean creating the outcome to be a certain way. If something is not
going as you would choose, donít try to "fix it."
Itís all right to use rules to get the kind of relationship you want, but be willing to let the rule go if it has served itís purpose.
the dating relationship continues and deepens, eventually comes the time
that at least one of you will become committed to the relationship.
fact I found interesting is that men will show their affection and sense
of connection by their actions more easily than by their words.
relationship is "the unfolding of yourself and another." Once
commitment is there, the couple will have decisions they will need to
The imagery in some of the exercises in the book isnít what gives you the answer as to whether or not to proceed with something, but the feelings do.
Throughout everything and anything, the book instructs that you love yourself unconditionally and accept yourself unconditionally.
the chapter on intuitive living, the author spoke of the wholeness factor,
which is the essence of your whole life with another person, past present
and future. One of the exercises in that section was the going down a
path exercise (making a decision).
is a part of the book about ending relationships. It is particularly important
during this time that you pay attention to your feelings.
If there is a person with who you have a relationship that seems irresolvable, write a letter to the angel of the other person and then let go. This gets your anger and expectations out of the way.
Sometimes external circumstances impose a detrimental effect upon a relationship. This calls for reflection and a choice of how to proceed.
A relationship is over when there is no more flow. Your life is not another personís responsibility, but is your own. Once you know a relationship is over, let it go. Resistance causes fatigue.
When youíre in emotional pain you need to stop the pain, regain your personal power and determine appropriate action.
are two kinds of emotional pain: growing pain, which stretches you because
you are still learning, still contributing; and destructive pain, which
depletes energy and feels demeaning.
area of life where intuition can be an asset is in raising children. It
teaches the child to trust himself. Children have a right to be who they
are. Teach them the difference between anxiety and intuition.
ways of healing after the hurt and betrayal of a damaged relationship
are through friendships with people, plants and animals. Look for new
opportunities. Express your creativity.
Toward the end of the book, Rosanoff writes about relationships with those who have died or are in the process of dying.
a living person goes through serious illness or trauma, seeing people
they loved who have already died is not uncommon.
those who are dying, it is important for them to get their needs met,
to tie up "loose ends" in the relationship. We can help them
by asking and listening, even if they are unconscious and canít speak.
Sometimes the answers come in nonverbal ways.
in death there can be contact through intuition. Intuition lets you know
what is right for you at this moment.
beginning to end, KNOWING WHEN ITíS RIGHT shows how everyone can benefit
from intuition through every stage of life.
Respect cycles, acknowledge endings and allow healing.
Every one of us can tap into our intuition to improve every one of our relationships - with men, women, children, plants, animals and the dying and departed.
Some of the tools that aid us are visions, dreams, feelings, physical sensations, synchronicity and creative inspiration.
Remember: first comes intuition; then comes understanding.
In the words of the author, "Intuition is your connection to your true self, your soul, and your life purpose."
*Knowing when itís right: An intuitive approach to improving relationships, by Nancy Rosanoff, is published by Sourcebooks Trade. It is available on Amazon.com, and you can see it by clicking here!
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