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      Book 
        Summary 
        by VirDella 
        Denwiddie 
       
      Atlantic 
        University  
         Although 
        there is plenty of anecdotal history on dreams and what they might mean 
        or symbolize, we date our modern interest in dream study to Sigmund Freud, 
        who was first to identify the subconscious as the part of the mind that 
        stores memories and desires.  
         
        This identification became a major breakthrough in understanding how our 
        dreams are linked to daily activities in our waking life. Freud's brilliant 
        exploration of dream content analysis was unfortunately limited by his 
        narrow focus on sexuality as the common lens for reviewing all dreams. 
         
         
        Despite this, Freud's work has been acknowledged as an important contributor 
        in our understanding of the dream world. 
         
        Everyone dreams. Scientists have discovered that probably all healthy 
        people dream, including infants. Through laboratory work, they've determined 
        that the dream period is marked by observable rapid eye movement (REM) 
        and that dreams take place on the average every ninety minutes.  
         
        They have also learned that dream deprivation can have profound effects 
        on our psychological and emotional wellbeing.  
         
        In a laboratory study conducted by dream researchers William Dement and 
        Charles Fisher of New York's Mount Sinai Hospital, people were awakened 
        whenever REM began, thus were not allowed to finish any dream. They were 
        not allowed to dream for six nights, or to nap during the day.  
         
        In a control group equal amounts of sleep were denied, including non-napping; 
        however, the control group participants were only awakened during non-REM 
        portions of sleep. The study found that the dream-deprived subjects became 
        more and more anxious and irritable and admitted making poorer lifestyle 
        choices then normal.  
         
        For example, they drank and smoke more often and were more hostile and 
        resentful than under normal circumstances. On the other hand, the control 
        group, sleep but not dream deprived, showed no change in personality or 
        behavior. Scientists concluded that dreams are critical to our psychological 
        welfare. 
         
        Not many weeks go by when we don't either hear someone make reference 
        to a dream which caught their attention or have one of our own. It is 
        when we have the earth-shaking dream that hints of something spectacular 
        brewing, or is a full-blown nightmare that we wish that "knew" 
        what it meant.  
         
        Rather than waiting for that hang-gliding moment to arrive, start practicing 
        dream analysis now. To do this: 
         
        First-- Get a notebook. You will find that you recall your dream 
        better as you write, and that even the words you choose to describe the 
        dream help give you insight later as to what the dreams means.  
         
        Furthermore, by recording your dreams regularly and in a notebook, you 
        will be able to see patterns and personal symbols as you read back over 
        several dreams at one time.  
         
        If you have a hard time recalling dreams, give yourself a suggestion before 
        bedtime that you will remember your dreams that night, or drink some water 
        before retiring to help you to wake up in the middle of the night, perhaps 
        just after a dream ends.  
         
        If you have the opposite problem of waking too often with dreams to record, 
        give yourself the suggestion that you will recall the last dreams before 
        morning, unless it is very important that you recall an earlier one. The 
        unconscious mind is very amenable to suggestion. 
         
        Second-- Relax before you retire. If you go to bed tense or too 
        tired, you may sleep so soundly that you will not be able to recall your 
        dreams. By relaxing beforehand, you allow your psyche to shift gears away 
        from the outward, role-oriented, public life you lead to reveal the inner, 
        more emotional part of you. 
         
        Third-- Notice what is on your mind-- Dreams generally give focus 
        to whatever occupies our mind or hearts; so, if you are aware of your 
        thoughts and feelings just before you go to sleep, you may find yourself 
        halfway to interpreting your dreams when you awake. 
         
        Fourth-- Don't forget to give yourself a suggestion. "I will 
        remember my dreams" may suffice, or you may wish to pray for guidance, 
        or for understanding a particular area. 
         
        Fifth-- Wake up comfortably. If you use an alarm clock, try to 
        use a soft alarm, or quiet music; a loud, jarring or verbal music bring 
        you to consciousness too quickly, and sever the thin, fragile line to 
        your dream. 
         
        Sixth-- Don't move too abruptly. Again, it is difficult to hold 
        onto the thin, filmy material of the unconscious. A quick movement, even 
        a stretch as you lay in bed can plant you firmly in the conscious world, 
        with only a wisp of a feeling that you had some great and important dream. 
         
         
        Take a few moments to go over the dream in your mind. Then carefully retrieve 
        your journal to write it down. Start by writing out a simple story line, 
        as described below. When you have more time, go back and add additional 
        details. 
      Let's assume 
        that you've had a dream and have recorded it. What now? Michaels gives 
        us five easy-to-use steps that will enable us to identify the theme and 
        from that hopefully, the aspect of our lives that the dream messenger 
        wishes us to address. The steps are: 
         
        Step one: Emotions-- What were your feelings during the dream and 
        as you awoke? Were they familiar feelings? Are they feelings you desire 
        more of, or would rather do without? Emotions are often a very strong 
        clue to the meaning of a dream. 
         
        Step two: What is the basic story line?-- Be a disinterested third 
        party and sum the dream up in a sentence or two. "Someone or something 
        is doing what...?" For example: 
        Dream--There is a flowerpot on a windowsill. The plant is very 
        beautiful and healthy. 
         
        Upon closer inspection, you notice that a bug is beginning to eat one 
        of the leaves. You are startled and know that you must act quickly if 
        you are to save the plant, but don't know if you can. 
         
        When you awake you feel hurt, not wanting to see something that is so 
        beautiful destroyed. A story line that addresses both the theme and the 
        emotion might be "Someone sees something beautiful, but in order 
        to keep it so, has to act quickly to put a stop to something horrible 
        from happening." 
         
        Step three: Matching the theme or story line to an area of life-- 
        Notice that none of the detail of the dream is kept in the theme, but 
        rather the action and the emotion. This helps the dreamer to apply the 
        theme to any aspect of his or her waking life. 
         
        The dreamer might ask: "If this theme were a reflection of my waking 
        life or a part of me, what area or part would it reflect?" In the 
        above dream, one might ask what wonderful being is threatened by something 
        the dreamer must "nip in the bud?" 
         
        Step four: Symbols-- Despite much talk about universal symbols 
        and standard dream symbols, symbols are first and foremost personal. As 
        you look at your dreams, be aware of what the symbols mean to you. They 
        can mean the same thing as they do to others, or they can mean different 
        things. 
         
        A dog behind a fence can make you feel safe or make you sad as you recall 
        that your beloved pet was locked in all day when you left for school. 
        Of course you may also accept many commonly held dream symbols. 
         
        Step five: Application-- After you decide on the dream's theme 
        and match the theme to an area of your life, look at the symbols and associate 
        them to actual memories or personal meaning. 
         
        Do insights and meanings emerge? Think of how to apply these. Is there 
        an implied action, such as starting an exercise program? Remember, dreams 
        are letters from your soul, not generally meant to simply entertain you. 
        Under most circumstances, applying the dream's insight will produce a 
        constructive change in you as you align yourself more closely with your 
        soul's purpose. 
         
        Let us look briefly at the 27 types of dreams that Michaels documents 
        in the remainder of the book. For each category, Michaels provides descriptions 
        of dream types in that category, followed by "live" examples 
        of dreams and analyses. 
         
        Afterwards, she summarizes each type by recapturing the identifying features, 
        to make it easier for the dreamer to sort, label and understand his or 
        her dream content. 
         
        Dreams related to basic life issues 
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        1. Body and Health 
         
        2. Relationships 
         
        3. Decision-making 
         
        4. Male and female balancing 
         
        5. Strength 
         
        6. Sex 
         
        When you learn to pay attention to your dreams, you may realize that you 
        have your own built-in doctor, or so it seems. Your dreams will show you 
        when certain foods disagree with your body, or how to raise your energy 
        or calm yourself down, and even how to heal yourself. 
         
        Each of your cells has a consciousness that communicates with the whole, 
        just as holographic photography can reveal the whole entity from the smallest 
        segment. These dreams communicate often through common symbols for the 
        body, such as cars and houses, or less common ones, such as rusted or 
        leaking pipes which may signify problems with the eliminations or with 
        a woman's menses. 
         
        Sometimes the messages are very direct. Be sure to consult a health professional 
        concerning serious health issues. 
         
        Relationship issues may also be direct or symbolic in dreams. People you 
        know in waking life may represent some characteristic of themselves that 
        is important to the dream's message to you, or they may represent themselves 
        directly in their relationship to you. 
         
        The following trick can help you decide which is the case. Whether the 
        person is someone you know well or someone you hardly know, think of two 
        traits about that person that you like and two traits that you don't like. 
        Then apply those traits to yourself or someone close to you; if there 
        is a substantial match, the person is mirroring traits that you need to 
        look at in yourself or someone close to you. 
         
        If there is no direct match, then it is more likely that the relationship 
        itself is being portrayed in the dream.  
        As with any dream, apply the five-step process to determine the dream's 
        theme. If the theme clearly reminds you of a current or past relationship, 
        it is a relationship dream that you need to act upon. 
         
        Most often, these dreams give us feedback about our behavior in the relationship, 
        or feedback that will help prepare us for a future relationship that we 
        are seeking, showing us how to clean up our acts to make room for a new 
        or better relationship. 
         
        Finally, be aware that dreams almost always exaggerate both actions and 
        emotions; it is their way of getting our attention. If our dream audience 
        cheers when we punch someone for their obvious wrongdoing, it is not advocating 
        the violent action but rather the indignation and assertive behavior that 
        prompted it. 
         
        Our dreams always help us to be on our best behavior, but that does not 
        mean being a "goody two-shoes" as we, or some other vulnerable 
        person or group gets walked all over. 
         
        Similar logic can be applied to the other four dream types in this category. 
        Decision-making dreams do not give you answers but rather a clearer view 
        of the questions and landscape so that you can make the right decision. 
        One dreamer saw two golden haired dogs that looked very much alike but 
        were really quite different. 
         
        When asked about their differences, she replied in the dream that one 
        was a pedigree Pekingese, while the other was an ordinary dog of mixed 
        breed. Upon awakening, she realized that the dream had to do with her 
        relationship with Bill, who, like herself, was blond. 
         
        While they seemed to have similar interests, the dream allowed her to 
        focus on bill's temperament, high strung and finicky, traits similar to 
        the pedigreed dog. The dream helped her to make a decision with which 
        she had wrestled for some time. 
         
        Identifying features include dreams that have you choosing among options, 
        deciding whether something is real or fake, or dreams that involve taking 
        a mode of transportation to a destination. If you are in the process of 
        making an important decision, try triggering a decision-making dream. 
        Ask, as you drift off to sleep: "If I do such and such, what will 
        the result be like?" 
         
        See what comes up in your dreams that night. If it seems totally unrelated, 
        try it again the next night; sometimes it takes awhile to prime the pump. 
         
        Rebalancing dreams may come up when we tend to be too one-sided in expressing 
        the opposite sex traits of our being. Everyone has both male and female 
        characteristics and generally orientates him or herself to one or the 
        other. The other trait is used less often but still often reflects prominently 
        in one's personality. 
         
        When one is substantially out of balance, it may be quite apparent. Males 
        lacking in female essence will tend to lack sensitivity, gentleness or 
        nurturing. Females who have limited male essence may lack assertiveness 
        or be too dependent. As we grow and change physically and emotionally, 
        we sometimes need to re balance our psyches; dreams are one way to do 
        that. 
         
        Characteristic of such dreams is the presence of a person of the opposite 
        sex with whom we identify or whom we admire. This figure represents the 
        anima (female essence in a man's dream and animus (male essence in a woman's 
        dream) part of us. We may see ourselves doing something that is not characteristic 
        of us and that usually represents the opposite trait which needs to be 
        brought into our lives to balance us. 
         
        Or, the anima /animus may appear as a negative figure, pointing out a 
        trait that is overly developed. 
         
        Strength dreams act like meters to show us the level of strength or vulnerability 
        we are feeling. They often come at periods of our lives when we are facing 
        difficult or challenging situations. This can include starting a new school 
        or career, or facing the death of a loved one.  
         
        One important thing about sex dreams is that they are not always about 
        sex. Because of the level of emotion often associated with sex, sex dreams 
        may be symbolic of any powerful emotion we may feel at any time. 
         
        A dream about a positive sexual encounter with a boss that you despise 
        may be the psyche's way of healing the negative energy so that you can 
        initiate a better working relationship. However, sometimes we have sex 
        dreams as a way of balancing our own sexual energy or resolving our psychological 
        feelings about sexuality. 
         
        Evaluate sex dreams in the usual way; paying close attention to the roles 
        as well as the action. See what aspect of your life the theme fits best; 
        then act on it in accordance with your personal standards and good judgment. 
        And remember, dreams are not judgmental. 
         
        They reflect the standards you absorbed while growing up and messages 
        from your own soul regarding those standards. 
         
        Dreams that help you to remove life's roadblocks--  
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        7. Re balancing your emotional state 
         
        8. Reviewing past events or states of mind 
         
        9. Nonsense 
         
        10. Recurring 
         
        This next section of dreams is not substantially different from those 
        discussed above in terms of how to interpret and apply the messages. Re 
        balancing your emotional state is a lot like re balancing your male and 
        female sides.  
         
        The psyche serves as a gauge to what is normal in each person; it then 
        notifies us in the dream state when we are off balance. Oftentimes the 
        re balancing is achieved simply by the dream itself, through mirroring 
        back to us the areas in which we are stuck.  
         
        Sometimes, by showing us an exaggerated mood, the dream is saying, "Is 
        this who you really are?" to enable us to change our conduct or attitude 
        and return to balance.  
        Review dreams, as the title implies, allow us to look back at a recent 
        incident or unfinished business and see whether we handled it as well 
        as we might have done.  
         
        Oftentimes, we may find ourselves in another's person's shoes if the waking 
        incident involved a relationship. These dreams help us process the "leftovers," 
        by checking out the small things that may inhibit healing and wholeness 
        in all aspects of our lives. 
         
        Nonsense dreams are like caricatures; they are absurdity that is placed 
        in our faces to get our attention. Most nonsense dreams make perfect sense 
        upon closer examination, and then become one of the other types of dreams 
        we have examined.  
         
        A dream about eating a shoe may be a direct comment on the nutritional 
        content of our food choices; one showing you with an extra large head 
        or a tiny hat may nudge you to review your disposition about your level 
        of achievement, especially if you've been bragging a lot. 
         
        Recurring dreams are another of the psyche's tools that may either be 
        used make a point or to bring attention to a critical need or simply to 
        help in a long-term healing process. Some people dream repeated stories 
        about loved ones who are deceased. 
         
        Others may dream of overcoming seemingly insurmountable difficulties, 
        again and again, to remind them of their strength during long and difficult 
        times. Some such dreams keep the same theme but get worse with each subsequent 
        dream until it becomes the "nightmare from hell," like a child 
        who whimpers to get attention and falls into a full-blown tantrum if it 
        still doesn't get its way. 
         
        Recurring dreams should be treated as all others so that the message may 
        be accepted or acted upon. 
         
        Dreams that help you realize your potential 
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        11. Dreams that signal something new 
         
        12. Dreams that promise a favorable outcome 
         
        13. Energizing dreams 
         
        14. Creativity dreams 
         
        15. Practice dreams 
         
        All of the dreams in this section seem to truly signify a change in you 
        that is noticeable almost immediately. Energizing dreams can actually 
        elevate your energy level and creativity dreams can instigate or improve 
        your creativity.  
         
        Practice dreams can both prepare you for an emotionally charged one-time 
        activity (such as speaking to a group) or reinforce ongoing skills you 
        may have. Of course, the traits and talents signaled in our dreams are 
        strengthened by what we do in our waking life to reinforce them.  
         
        Learning a new skill and stopping bad habits fall into this category and 
        we know that these require much reinforcement to result in lifelong changes. 
         
        Frightening Dreams 
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        16. Frightening Dreams 
         
        17. Dreams about death 
         
        In promoting wellbeing and wholeness, the psyche sometimes must help us 
        deal with unpleasant matters, things we would rather avoid. Our natural 
        reaction is to "push away" such information, much as a child 
        might stop up his ears to avoid hearing a parental lecture. 
         
        This distorts the images that come through, creating images and story 
        lines that appear frightening. According to Michaels, there aren't really 
        frightening dreams, only frightened dreamers.  
         
        We may find ourselves face to face with what we fear most, which becomes 
        an opportunity for change and healing; we may mimic the pain and trauma 
        that exists in our waking lives in order to help us see a way to alleviate 
        it; or we "see the enemy and know it to be us," through projecting 
        a rejected part of ourselves.  
         
        All are opportunities to promote wellness in our lives. Sometimes, these 
        dreams come to make us aware of potential danger, such as job loss or 
        accidents. We help ourselves best by understanding the message and accepting 
        it or acting on it. 
         
        Highest on the scale of fear-invoking dreams are dreams about our own 
        or a loved one's death. Like sex dreams, the vast majority of death dreams 
        are metaphorical. Since death is the ultimate change, such dreams usually 
        symbolize major change.  
         
        In rare cases, the dreams may be an actual death warning, which may come 
        either to help us avoid a fatal accident or to prepare us for a loved 
        one's death, or even our own. 
         
        The three things that characterize these rare dreams are: 
        1. Very vivid imagery; 2. Emotions that would match the dreamer's if the 
        incident occurred in waking life, and 3. True to life details, i.e. the 
        actual car or house, etc. as in waking life where event takes place. 
         
        As with all dreams, we should identify and apply the theme to our lives 
        to see if there is a metaphorical fit. What is this critically important 
        message? If we cannot find a metaphorical fit, we may try to resolve whatever 
        situation the dream warning might indicate, such as getting the car's 
        brakes checked or discussing the plane trip with the individual we dreamed 
        about if we feel comfortable doing so.  
         
        If the death we saw becomes inevitable, perhaps it was our psyche's way 
        of preparing us, a strength dream. 
         
        Other people and your dreams 
         
        Included are dreams concerning 
         
        18. Other person dreams 
         
        19. Counseling dreams 
         
        This is an unusual category of dreams and is not easy to spot. Sometimes 
        our dreams about other people are not about relationship issues, but are 
        about how others see and feel about us, or how we see and feel about others. 
         
         
        These dreams seem to literally cross the threshold of our individuality, 
        much like a psychic dream, and connect us to another being. A secretary, 
        who was experiencing a very difficult time with a controlling boss, dreamed 
        of pink flamingoes being beaten severely by a shopkeeper.  
         
        She saw that she was afraid to speak out on the bird's behalf because 
        she knew that she might make it harder for the remaining bird (2 others 
        had died from the beatings) after she left. Upon analyzing the dream, 
        she realized that she was the maimed flamingo, her boss the shopkeeper 
        and a close friend and fellow employee, the observer. 
         
        The unspoken empathy from the co-worker helped her feel better and to 
        rally some under the tyranny. The dead birds were previous secretaries 
        who had quit before her arrival. This equating of death with quitting 
        is an example of the metaphorical use of death dreams. 
         
        In another dream, someone observed a friend standing out in the rain who 
        refused her sincere offer to share her oversized umbrella. She felt hurt 
        that she could not reach her lonely friend. Upon close analysis, she realized 
        that she'd switched shoes, that the lonely person was herself and that 
        she'd recently rejected a friend's sincere outreach efforts. 
         
        Recognizing how her friend felt prompted her to call and repair the damages 
        and accept the attention she so needed. Counseling dreams are similar 
        to the above, allowing one who is in a client/counselor relationship to 
        identify with their client's needs through dreams that mirror the client's 
        emotions or, in some cases, actual situations that they are facing. 
         
        These dreams are brought on by a sincere desire to help and can enable 
        the therapist uncover unspoken material that can be used in sensitive 
        and respectful manners to enhance and speed up the client's healing. 
         
        Infinite harmonies: Divine graces that come directly through dreams 
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        20. Healing Dreams 
         
        21. Integration of the Self achieved through dreams 
         
        Where there is harmony between body, mind and spirit, wholeness and health 
        occur." Healing dreams promote harmony that leads to physical, mental 
        or emotional wellness. While some healing dreams are spontaneous, Micheals 
        believes the dreamer may also request a healing. She did so only once, 
        and she received one.  
         
        It came upon the heels of multiple surgeries one year to repair facial 
        bones from an early childhood accident. Exhausted and having breathing 
        difficulties, she exclaimed before retiring that if ever she needed a 
        healing dream, "it was now." She dreamed of a huge snake-like 
        dragon lying in concentric circles that ate pills supplied by its own 
        tail.  
         
        The serious, pompous-looking dragon made her laugh and gave her energy 
        and strength. In fact, every time she thought of the dragon, she felt 
        re-energized. She soon learned that the dragon of her dreams was the ancient 
        archetypal symbol for healing. Other dreams help you integrate parts of 
        your psyche, similar again to the rebalancing dreams.  
         
        You go to sleep as Jane Doe and awake as the new, improved Jane Doe, more 
        confident, radiant and stronger, permanently. Common images in these dreams 
        are mountaintop scenes, perfect circles, number 7's, or wise old men. 
         
         
        They are often unexpected and come after a period of genuine striving; 
        they seem to be the soul's way of giving you a wonderful pat on the back. 
         
        New horizons: Exploring spiritual unknowns through dreams 
         
        Included are dreams concerning: 
         
        22. Dreams that cross death's threshold 
         
        23. Dream visits to other realms 
         
        24. ESP dreams 
         
        25. Dreams of past lives 
         
        26. World-event dreams 
         
        27. Lucid dreams 
         
        The common element in these dreams is their obvious ability to reveal 
        to us that we are all connected. They do this by having us reach beyond 
        our individuality into timelessness and "space" less ness. We 
        see that life does not end with death, nor does it begin with birth.  
         
        We can see loved ones across the miles and tap into world events. These 
        dreams are seldom asked for, nor do we know why they come to some individuals 
        but not others. Mystics across the centuries, near death experiences and 
        other anecdotal evidence confirms that the veil between the "deceased" 
        and the living is indeed thin, and that it is mainly our distractions 
        with this world, coupled with entrenched and inhibiting beliefs, that 
        separate us from recognizing visits from deceased loved ones. 
         
        It is for this reason that such visits most often take place when we are 
        in the dream state, when we are less inhibited and distracted. One final 
        comment on the common elements of dreams in this category is that they 
        all have a literal quality about them, and they all seem to leave a strong 
        hint of reality. 
         
        The deceased may give a favorite fragrance or habit, for instance; or, 
        as you fly off to another realm, you may pass over a street name that 
        you recognize, or you may see a calendar with a date that tells you you're 
        in a past life.  
         
        Is it any wonder then that the last chapter focuses on lucid dreaming, 
        those dreams where we are conscious of dreaming and able to observe and 
        change our interactions with the dream world. The Tibetans believe that 
        lucid dreaming helps prepare us for our final transition and that finding 
        and merging with the light was a way of reaching transformation in this 
        life. 
         
        Lucid dreams certainly allow the conscious and the unconscious to merge, 
        which is one way of giving us a window view of our soul. If you have one, 
        look for the light and try to merge with it; it is good practice. 
         
        It is important to realize that, even when they seem quite out of the 
        blue, dreams do not come unbidden or without purpose. They come to help 
        us in some way, prepare us in some way, heal us and make us whole in some 
        way.  
         
        They come to awaken us to who we truly are. They do this best when we 
        pay them attention, seek to understand the message and respond to it as 
        best we are able, including just by acknowledging our gratitude. 
          
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